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If you struggle with your performance, try to recall how often you have fun when you are playing, when you are competing. Maybe you cannot remember the last time you enjoyed the game, which is ironic since fun was the initial attraction to your sport! The reason you can’t remember is that you cannot detach from yourself, the game, and its outcome. Your emotional involvement reduces the level of joy you can experience in your sport. You lose the awareness needed in your sport, which interferes with the outcome. When you become attached to playing better and winning more, you push, force, or try harder. This create anxiety, tension and pressure; the result is less fun, joy, and fulfillment, coupled with lower performance.
How often you have fun when you are playing, when you are competing?
To start to be more detached of the outcome, to begin to attach less value to how you perform, ask yourself the question: “What do I love about my sport?” Then focus on your passion. Here are some affirmation you can use:“When I’m detached, I play my best.” “When I detach from results, things begin to go my way.” “When I stay in the moment, I improve my play.”
Seven steps to detachment
This exercice will help you to identify your attachments and get beyond them:
- Tell yourself that you are willing and able to be perfectly honest with yourself.
- Make a list of your attachments.
- Annotate this list: Mark the godo things about each attachment and the drawbacks of each.
- Make a list of the attachments from which you wish to detach.
- After a careful reading of each attachment, answer the question, “Why do I wish to detach?” You may actually value these items quite highly. You can’t detach and attach at the same time – this conflict will set you up for unhappines. Maybe you are attached to what they represent.
- Decide what you can truly let go of. It is imperative that the benefits of detaching from a certain thing be greater than the benefits of holding on.
- Once you define the value in detachment, you are ready to let go and affirm: “I love the freedom and happiness that comes with shedding.” Attachments might be fun, yet they are not essential. When you detach , life goes on in a much more freeing, fearless way.
If you want to improve your performance and to know more about Vida Mind, do a free session with Dr. Damien Lafont. Contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 0435 819 262 and he will get in touch with you to schedule 45 min with you either in person or over Skype. In this free info session with him, you’ll go through what is keeping your performing at your best. You’ll know Dr Lafont, how he works and whether you are a good fit for each other.